A lot of the western world have gathered dehumanizing belief system towards marriage; some are not prepared for this esoteric act but rush into it with crude knowledge that end them in a fatal emotional destruction as a result of break-up.
Consequently, a lot of inhumane practiced follow. Going into marriage is more than literal meaning we attach to love - Love in his entirety is not attached or confined to the human culture or definition we give to it. Loving is more than the human culture we see around us everyday. Love is God and it has a lot of wisdom which is not found in this world. What we humans call wisdom when we are "in love" is not wisdom in the site of God, rather this is mere exhibition of how and greatly foolish we are in our folly.
Love is the absolute nature of GOD, secondly; Love is an everyday experience. With Love we are able to shape a better society that is fit for God and man. Suffice me to buttress at this point that Love is not something you graduate from the day you find your missen rib or so called "Mr Right".
Love in its nature is not looking for the perfect match but makes the imperfect match perfect; Love is a leap of faith in the true wisdom of God - True Love knows the mind of God and listen to His words. You cannot say you love but do not know or understand the mind of God in certain issues about your life. For you to really love, you must be close to God to hear Him loud and clear, you must understand the mind and will of God for you to move forward in life.
It is time for us to separate love from the useless urge we have whenever we see a partner we like. It is time to separate love from like - knowing that true relationship that will last is built out of friends who like themselves. Relationship is never the time to introduce love - yeah you heard me right! If I cannot like my partner I can't love her; is as simple as that!!
True love is built out of good friends that like themselves very well - Friendship is the greatest bond. As friends I can easily forgive my partner when she go wrong, being friend with my partner will also grant me the opportunity to play with my partner and make our relationship very lively.
One thing about friendship is that it kills the uptight behavior in every individual; it destroys any form of formalities and makes everybody see each other as a child - this is beauty of friendship. We forgive so easily when we are friends than when "WE ARE IN LOVE".
Another advantage is the fact that as friends you can't lie to each other. Everything is seen as it is - friendship create an environment of freedom that is void of any attachment. If you are my friend, I find it very easy to confide my challenges to you than when we are so called "lovers" in the eyes of the world.
Every lasting relationship that is geared towards marriage or not starts from being great friends. Mind you not every friendship ends up in marriage; what matter is the purpose of that friendship.
In other wards what I'm suggesting to us is that we can start a successful marriage through great friendship. You must first of all, like the person and this should not be subject to what the person has or not - you cannot build a great friendship when you subject it to material achievement - even in our churches today, they have celebrated this misconception.
Build great friendship - like what you are seeing and then grow your friendship.
See you in Pt.2
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